Bouts of Doubts

We are scheduled to have our Skype with EDI next month on the 12th of June.

But I'm having doubts.

Major Doubts.

We have 16 couples ahead of us - when I checked there were only 7 available couples donating.
EDI never seems to know what I'm talking about when I call or email.  It's like they forget everything we've discussed previously.  Or don't remember who I am.
They never have time for me on the phone.  They spout off info really fast, don't have any time for me to verify anything, and then before I have a chance to say goodbye, they hang up.
They let several days go by in between emails.  They don't even respond to let me know they got what I sent.
Their wait is somewhere between 6-12 months, and there is the possibility that we would get to the top of the list only to have no embryos to choose from.  It's happened before at this clinic.  And would make the wait even longer.

All of this culminates to make me feel...rushed, unimportant, like a side job (not their main focus).  If I contact them for clarity, they make me feel like I'm bothering them and that they are so busy with their current IVF cycle (not adoption cycle) that they won't have time for me until later.

I don't get good vibes.

Plus the Skype call next month is going to cost $400.  That's a lot for an initial consult and to see if we even like the doc.

So...

I called NEDC up in Knoxville, just to see what they sounded like, what their wait times involved, etc.

My phone call was answered right away.
The lady was so kind sounding, didn't rush, and talked to me for half an hour about our triplets, and then adopting Z, and then their process from start to finish.
There is no being penalized for having a child.  The wait is the same for everyone.
They currently have so many embryos at their clinic that there is no waiting time to be matched.
That being said, the process from application to transfer usually takes 8-10 months.
They do require a current home study - which we have.
Their next available initial consult is in August, but we can start the entire process now, apply, send them my records, move forward and have surgery here before August, build our embryo adoption profile, go up in August for the physical exam/mock transfer/lining monitoring, get matched and then transfer.  Possibly all by December, or by February/March worst case scenario.
My clinic here has worked with NEDC, recommended them, and can do all the monitoring pre-transfer locally (covered by insurance).
I believe the clinic is Christian.  They recommend Bethany Adoption for home studies, if their patients don't already have a completed home study.

I definitely get much better vibes from NEDC.

There are two drawbacks.

They are in Knoxville, which is a long drive from South Florida, but that's only 5 hours from my in-laws.  Not that we'd drive back and forth every day, but having family that close by is awesome.

We only get 3 chances to transfer embryos.  If those don't work, we're SOL, at least with NEDC.  Honestly, though, at that point, I think I would say we'd be done trying to adopt embryos.  I don't want to beat a dead horse.

I'm gonna have a long talk with Hubby tonight and see what he thinks about switching.  We haven't paid anything yet to anyone so we're not out any money if we do decide to switch.

I just don't like the attitude from EDI.  And if we're shelling out that much money, I want to feel valued and important and a priority, not like a pain in someone's butt or an annoyance.  I'll drive to Timbuktu to get good care when we're dealing with life, versus staying in-state to avoid the extra travel cost.  Heck, I drove 4 hours each way 4 times a week for doctor and acupuncture appointments up at Womack from South Carolina.  I'm dedicated to doing the best for any embryos given to me, either biologically by God or circumstantially by God.

And EDI, I'm just not feelin' the love from ya at all.